Without getting into too much detail I feel like I’m in a weird period of my life now in terms of just trying to figure out where I fit into the world and how I can best utilize everything I’ve learned over the last 26 years of my life. I’ve been leaning on God more and more lately, and it is comforting to know He’s there with me every step of the way. When life feels overwhelming I tend to re-coil and separate myself from other happenings and people. Aside from my family, I know there is one other person I know I can always count on…my husband. Not only have I learned a million things about the person I vowed my forevers to 3 years ago, but I’ve also learned a ton about myself, about how my perception isn’t always rational, and about how life works. I’d love to share a few of these things with you, so, grab a cup of tea or coffee and join me for the top 10 things I’ve learned through my sweet husband:
1. … that true, deep, life-changing love exists. Our love is palpable, strong and endearing. Dan has seen me at my absolute worst (I’m talking a soggy mess of tears and mascara lumped on the floor), and he has also seen me at my very best, and yet his love for me is unwavering through the bad and the good. He respects me as a person, and we’re the best of friends. I feel so blessed that this amazing person came into my life at such a young age. God always knows what he’s doing :)
2. …that it doesn’t matter what other people think of me, and that I need to carve my own way in the world. Life is hard. I really don’t need to complicate it. It’s okay to slowly chip away at life, to just not know, to spend time reflecting on the paths I’ve chosen, and to slow down every once in awhile. Life is so much more than our jobs or where we are going…but it’s all in how you get there. The journey doesn’t end until we’ve breathed our last.
3. …that Studio Ghibli films and anime shows completely dominate all of the Disney movies and many of the American cartoons/shows I’ve seen throughout my lifetime (the exceptions would be Regular Show and Finn & Jake, of course). The sense of wonder I get from watching Studio Ghibli films is something I’ve never quite felt with full-force when watching a Disney film. Not to mention, the characters in Studio Ghibli films are the cutest things I’ve ever seen.
4 … that worrying is pointless. As mentioned in my last post, Dan is the calmest person I’ve ever met in my life. He holds it together for both of us most of the time. I admire his ability to deal with conflict and uneasiness with grace, and he is the master of just moving forward. I used to be must more frantic when I was younger, and I believe I’ve come a long a way through the coaxing and patience of my husband.
5. …that video games are pretty awesome, and that I’m pretty good at them. As many of you know, my husband is a huge video game/computer game nerd. When we first started dating Dan was consumed by Warcraft:Frozen Throne. He played somewhat competitively, and so, he would spend hours practicing before he realized to let it go to focus on school. My little brother has always been a video game nerd, but it wasn’t really until I met Dan that I realized we had a mutual love for playing video games. My ultimate favorites are the God of War trilogy and Kingdom Hearts. My favorite is when I get stuck on a boss…Dan always comes to my rescue :)
6. …personality differences do not have to create rifts in relationships. Believe me when I say that Dan and I have differences. Instead of creating space in our marriage these differences have forced us to be understanding, and they bring a new meaning to “unconditional” love. I’ve always believed that each party should have their independence (separate hobbies, interests, friends, etc.), and I think we do a pretty good job of remembering that we are different people working together to make our marriage work. Our differences make things quite interesting sometimes.
7. …that I’m slowly turning into a home-body. I don’t know if you would call this old-married-couple-syndrome, but over the last few years I’ve realized that some of the best moments I’ve shared with my husband are made up of quiet weekends on the couch snuggled up on his shoulder with a good movie and a steaming cup of tea. I’m happiest next to him, and I so enjoy these memories.
8. …that Dan’s sweet compliments never ever get old. I love the way my husband makes me feel beautiful even when I’ve just rolled out of bed, and my hair is a big matted mess on top of my head. He still looks at me lovingly and bright-eyed even though we’ve been together for nearly 10 years.
9. …that planning everything to a tee is unnecessary. I also mentioned in my last post that I am a HUGE planner. I like routine, and I like knowing what is happening next. I’m not very good at facing the dreaded unknown, but my husband is perfect at this feat. As an example, we didn’t plan out our honeymoon in London or Paris AT. ALL. We simply arranged our transportation and flights, and then everything was up in the air once we got there. It was the best time I’ve ever had in my life! I loved meandering the streets of London and sneaking sweet kisses with my new husband in the part without a care in the world and without itineraries.
10. …that I can’t stay mad at Dan for long. We very rarely get into disagreements where either of us raise our voices, but there are times when I’m “peeved.” These episodes don’t last long though….they never do.